A Memoir
Held in the
Vanishing
by Ti Mougne
A daughter's account of caring for both parents through dementia — of loving people in the very act of disappearing, and learning to walk beside them into the fog rather than pulling against it.
Launching August 4, 2026
Caregiver resourcesAbout the Book
For six years, Ti Mougne kept notebooks. On the backs of pharmacy receipts, in the margins of appointment cards, on her phone at three in the morning — small records of a vanishing she could not stop and would not look away from. First her father, then her mother, slipped into the long country of dementia. Held in the Vanishing is what she carried back.
This is not a book about a disease. It is a book about attention — the fierce, unglamorous devotion of staying when the person you are staying with no longer quite knows you. It moves through fear and exhaustion and unexpected grace, refusing easy comfort, finding instead the harder and truer kind: that to accompany someone into the fog is itself a way of loving them whole.
You do not have to win the argument with the disease. You only have to keep them company.
Written for anyone in the middle of their own long goodbye, it is tender without sentimentality, honest about the cost, and quietly insistent that the fleeting things are worth holding — carefully, for as long as we can.
I wanted to hold the version of them that was still here, even as I learned to love the version that was arriving.
— from the opening pages
For Fellow Caregivers
You are not alone in it
These are the resources that steadied me — the practical, human help no one hands you at the diagnosis. If you're walking this road now, I hope one of them lightens it, even a little.
Held in the Vanishing arrives soon. When it does, the most meaningful thing you can do is pass it to someone who needs it.
Launching August 4, 2026